The Gallery – Inspirational Person
I’m a day late with this weeks gallery entry. I usually have the post ready to go on a Tuesday so I can link up Wednesday morning but I forgot about it on Tuesday *shock* and was too busy cleaning upstairs yesterday to sit at the laptop for any length of time.
This is an important topic and I wanted to do it justice so whilst I’m supposed to be getting the downstairs cleaning done today, I’m taking a little break to write about my husband.
He’s not had an easy life. In fact, parts of it have been harder than I can imagine having to go through.
He was married to his first wife, Kathy, for 18 years and he adored her.
They had 8 children, 5 boys and 3 girls and they were both very happy in their marriage.
Ant started to suffer with depression when his second eldest daughter died. She was only a baby and the family were obviously devastated.
The depression was made worse a few years later when their third daughter died, also when she was still a baby. He struggled with his depression for years and they went through some very dark times. Thankfully, his marriage was strong and they were able to stay together.
As if losing 2 babies wasn’t enough, Kathy got ill a few years later and sadly died, leaving Ant to raise their 6 children on his own, the youngest was around 9 I think.
At the time, he lived in Northern Ireland. He struggled with his grief and his depression and a couple of years or so later, he decided to move back to England to be closer to his family.
It was a really hard time for him. He had to constantly fight the depression. Sometimes it looked like it was going to win but thankfully, it didn’t.
His 6 children are absolutely wonderful and a credit to their parents.
They obviously suffered through all the losses and were hit especially hard by the loss of their mum. From all accounts, Kathy was a brilliant mum and lived for her children. They all adored her and she adored them.
When Ant and I met in 2003, he was still fighting the depression. He was in a pretty bad way when we got together, after having just left a relationship that he’d totally committed too.
He’s an ‘all or nothing’ kind of guy and doesn’t commit easily. He took the breakdown of his previous relationship very hard and at times, I didn’t think he’d ever be able to move on and commit to us.
I’m 18 years younger than Ant and already had Aiden, who was only 3 at the time when we met. I didn’t think Ant would want anymore children after already having 6 and with everything he’d gone through when they lost the babies.
I knew I wanted to be with him forever so I resigned myself to only having the one child and being a step mum to Ant’s children (although that was a bit weird when the eldest was only a few years younger than me!) who I adored.
They’d welcomed me into the family and made me feel totally at ease.
I was so excited when Ant said he wanted us to have a baby together. We went on to have KayCee and Ella and decided after Ella that we’d completed our family 🙂
From meeting Ant, right up until to today, he’s been my inspiration. He’s a wonderful father to our girls and Aiden. He’s a wonderful husband and my best friend.
He’s been through so much but every day, no matter how much the depression tries to drag him back down, no matter how he’s feeling, he tries his very hardest to smile and be happy.
I don’t know how he does it but I’m thankful that he does because he keeps me strong. He makes me feel like I can accomplish anything and I’m also thankful that our children have such a wonderful role model.
He’s our hero and I love him dearly.