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5 Tips to Speaking With a Divorce Lawyer About Your Case

Divorce is a very stressful process for many people. Undoubtedly, the first meeting with your divorce lawyer will come at a time when you’re worried, emotional, and angry. It’s okay to be nervous about this first consultation, but having the best divorce lawyer in your corner is the best way to ease your tension during this difficult process.

The first meeting is your chance to speak up. What you do here will determine the course of your whole consultation. If you provide your lawyer with as many details about what you need, then you will be more satisfied with the final outcome. Conversely, if you don’t know what to expect from the divorce proceedings, then let your lawyer know. This is the only way to ensure that they will be able to steer you along the long, winding legal road without making the process even more uncomfortable.

With that in mind, here are 5 tips to help you when speaking with a divorce lawyer about your case:

  1. Be Brutally Honest

Throughout this process, it’s important to always remember that you and your lawyer are on the same team. After all, your lawyer is bound by attorney-client privilege: they can’t share any confidential information with anyone else unless you give them permission to do so. So – plain and simple – never lie about anything.

If you start leaving out relevant facts or adding untrue information to your story, you will only hurt your case in the long run. So prepare yourself to explain everything to your lawyer – both the good and the bad. This approach will enable them to give you the right guidance and advice to ensure a great outcome for you.

  1. Go into Detail

Some details might seem insignificant and frivolous to you, but not to your attorney. That’s because, when it comes to the law, every detail matters. You need to provide your lawyer with every detail so that they can be able to help your case.

After all, your lawyer doesn’t follow your every mood. So it’s your responsibility to be their eyes and ears throughout this process. That way, they are able to see the whole picture. Make sure to give them every name, date, incident, and other factual information to ensure that your attorney has an in-depth understanding of your situation.

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  1. Get Organized

Before your meeting, take time to review your family’s finances. This should include both the checking and savings accounts, as well as any stocks and debt. Your lawyer will find this information invaluable as they prepare for your divorce proceedings. Also, be prepared to discuss the current budget of your household and what you expect them to be after the divorce.

Your attorney will also request for other different types of paperwork. This could include anything from your prenuptial agreement to the divorce papers. Your job is to make sure that you provide them with copies of all the paperwork that they will need.

  1. Keep them Informed

Divorce cases are some of the most unpredictable in the legal field. Things are always bound to keep changing. That said, it is your job to keep your lawyer updated when these changes happen. Every small detail can change the course of your case drastically. Remember, the only way your lawyer will be able to represent you well is if they know everything that’s going on.

  1. Ask a Lot of Questions

It’s also important that you clearly understand what’s going on every step of the way. So don’t be shy about asking questions. A good attorney understands that the law can get very confusing to a layman. They will always be ready to explain key legal issues and what to expect during your case. Getting this clarification will go a long way towards putting your mind at ease.


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4 Tips to finding a reputable divorce attorney

If it is inevitable that you will need to have a divorce, one of the most important choices you will make is hiring your divorce lawyer.  The divorce process itself can become complicated, especially if you are dealing with children and properties, so you want to get someone who will be with you through every step of the way, and who is not just after the money you will pay him or her for the legal services that they will render.

Reputable Divorce Attorney

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Check out the tips below to help you make the best choice.

  1.    Ask friends and family for recommendations

    – the best thing you can do is to ask around. Do you have any friends or family members who have gone through the process of divorce? If you know a non-divorce lawyer, ask them for a referral to get you started in your search. But you need to know what kind of lawyer you can afford. Not everyone has a six-figure salary, and if you are the kind of person who lives from paycheck to paycheck, you need to choose your divorce lawyer properly.


  1.    Use the internet and look through directories

    – you have to use the internet properly. Do not be tempted to get the services of a lawyer or law firm because their website looks very professional. It would be easy to create a good-looking website but it does not mean that they are the best. Use the internet to gather information. You can check names of potential lawyers, see what kind of education and certifications they have, and how many years of experience they have as  divorce lawyers. Don’t forget to see if there are reviews for the lawyer you are eyeing. There are also some rating agencies that have a list, but you should also take it with a grain of salt.


  1.    Schedule a call or a consultation

    – narrow down your choices to around two or three lawyers, and schedule a time of consultation with them.  It might be tempting to just hire the first lawyer you will talk too, especially if you do not want to rehash your story. But you may want to get more than one perspective on how your case should be handled. Listen to the potential lawyers and check which process you may be most comfortable with. Also, make sure you already have a list of questions you want to ask in order for the consultation to run smoothly.  Some common questions you may ask are how much years of experience have they had with family law, what types of cases they have dealt with and so on. Do not hesitate to ask as there are no wrong questions because it’s better for you to be well-informed.


  1.    Look for any red flags and go with your instinct before making a choice

    – know that in a divorce process, nothing is ever really guaranteed, so be wary of lawyers who promise you too much. If they also tell you confidential information about their former clients, it might be safe to think that they will also talk about you with their future clients. Go with your gut and choose a lawyer that you feel most comfortable with. They might be doing business, but understand that it is your life, so you need to choose the best one to fit you.

What Are the Steps When Filing for Divorce in the UK?

It isn’t true that half of all first marriages and most second marriages end in divorce; those often-cited stats are the result of marriage rates dropping and divorce rates rising a few decades ago before stabilizing. However, a large minority of them do, which is why many people wonder what the divorce process is. Here are the exact steps when filing for divorce in the U.K.

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File the Divorce Petition

The first step to the divorce process is to file a divorce petition, called the D8 form, with either the divorce county court or principal registry in London. Pick the court most convenient to you, since you will need to visit the court several more times.

The D8 is the main document in any divorce proceeding and must be properly filled out to avoid problems with the rest of the process. You’ll need a copy of your marriage certificate for this step in the process.

Once you have completed the divorce petition, you’ll need to give your spouse a copy of the divorce petition. A notice of issue of petition will be sent to your spouse typically within a week of filing the D8.

Acknowledgement of Service

The acknowledgement of service occurs when the court sends a copy of the divorce petition to your soon-to-be-ex-spouse with an acknowledgement it has been received. It asks if you’ve received the divorce petition, does that person agree with the grounds for divorce, do you intend to defend the case, and have you received a statement of arrangements for the children. Someone answering these questions incorrectly can delay the divorce proceedings. However, refusing to fill out the form will not stop the divorce. If they don’t send it in, a second acknowledgement of service will be sent to them. If it fails to be returned a second time, a court bailiff or another representative will be sent to personally deliver it.

If the person wants to contest the divorce, the proper response is to say yes to the question do you intend to defend the divorce. Just answering yes doesn’t contest the divorce. After answering yes at this stage, an “Answer” form must be submitted.

If you need advice on how to respond to the form, contact one of the divorce solicitors in London.


Get the Forms for the Decree Nisi

A decree nisi is a first divorce decree. It means the court doesn’t see a reason you cannot divorce. This document mattered more when divorces were much harder to obtain than today. For this step, you need to fill out both a form D84, application for decree nisi, and form D80A-E.

Get the Forms for the Decree Absolute

A decree absolute is the final divorce decree. You must wait at least a month and a half after the decree nisi before you can apply for the decree absolute. The idea is that having several weeks to think about it will give both parties time to reconsider the divorce. When the decree absolute is issued, your divorce is officially ended.

Knowing the complete procedure for divorces is essential if you want to be prepared for the road ahead. Make sure that you go over the entire procedure with your lawyer so you know exactly what to expect and what will be expected of you.

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Divorce – where to start

Divorce – Where To Start

Divorce is never an easy subject to talk about it. It’s usually a heartbreaking time for all involved and can be a minefield to negotiate.

A lot of people don’t even know where to start when it comes to getting a divorce.
You can get one without involving solicitors but personally, I’d be far too nervous about incorrectly filling in a form that has to be sent to the court!
I think these should things should be handled by the professionals.

Grounds for divorce

Before you begin, you need to decide the grounds you’re going to base your divorce on. In England and Wales (laws are different in Scotland and Northern Ireland) you can give one of 5 reasons for getting divorced:

  1. Adultery – This only counts if the person your husband/wife has had sex with is of the opposite sex; even if you’re in a same-sex marriage.
  2. Unreasonable behaviour – for example, violent or verbal abuse.
  3. Desertion.
  4. You have lived apart for more than 2 years
  5. You have lived apart for more than 5 years – even if your husband/wife refuses to get divorced, this is usually enough for it to be granted.

Starting the proceedings

Once you’ve decided on the grounds, you will need to file the forms with the courts. Here’s where I’d let the professionals do the work.

A good law firm will make this very sad and stressful process much easier.

Once proceedings have begun, your husband/wife will be sent a divorce petition.

If both parties agree to get divorced, you won’t usually have to attend court. Your solicitors will sort all the paperwork for you and the court will make a decision based on the paperwork.

Some people celebrate their divorce!

For some people, getting divorced is a cause for celebration and they even have cakes especially for the occasion! Thankfully, I’m still really happy with the super wonderful husband and (hopefully!) he’s still happy with me so I don’t need a cake but some of them are quite funny!

I think my favourite would have to be the one that says:

I used to be married but I’m better now!

The super wonderful husband said he’d never divorce me because he can’t be bothered to fill in all the forms. He hates forms! Shhh, don’t tell them there are people out there who’ll fill them all in for you!

I’m not going to rest on my laurels though because if you look at the infographic below, it says you’re more likely to get divorced in your 40s (I’ve just turned 40!) and the average length of a marriage before divorce in the UK is 11.7 years.
We’ve not long celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary!

One of the statistics I do like on the infographic though is the one that says the more expensive the wedding, the more likely a couple is to divorce. We got married as cheaply as we possibly could so that bodes well for us!

In 2012 there were 118,140 divorces in the UK and almost half of them were in the first 10 years of marriage. I must say, I was relieved when we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary as it meant we’d made it through the 7-year itch!


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