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Flashback Friday Oct 21st – Aiden’s Birth Story

Aiden’s Birth Story

This is Aiden’s birth story, the eldest of my three wonderful children 🙂
I went two weeks overdue so the hospital arranged for me to be induced on Easter Sunday.
I had to be at the hospital early Sunday morning and my friend Jo was my birth partner. They induced me in the morning and I started getting contractions shortly after.

Gas & Air

I was on gas and air most of the day and I have to say I love that stuff! Don’t get me wrong, it didn’t take the pain away but what it did do was make it so that I didn’t really care about it!
To cut a long story short…..I spent all Sunday in labour but not progressing. By Monday morning I was shattered so agreed to have an epidural.
Around lunchtime, on Easter Sunday Aiden started getting distressed. They decided to do an emergency c-section because I still wasn’t dilated.

Not A Girl!

I hadn’t found out what I was having at my scans and was absolutely certain I was having a girl.
It was a shock when I had a boy and Jo said (even though I can’t remember any of this!) I answered ‘Jasmine’ when they asked what I was calling him!
Jo said, ‘Shell, it’s not a girl, it’s a boy’ and I was like, ‘errrm, I can’t remember what name I’d picked for a boy!’.
The first one that came into my head was Aiden so that’s what I blurted out! Luckily, I love the name and didn’t change it when I got home and looked in the baby name book to see that I’d picked Bradley John if I had a boy.

Aiden's birth story - me and Aiden

C-Section

The c-section wasn’t the best thing I’d ever gone through. I was still in pain and able to move my legs so I still think that they didn’t give me enough epidural. The doctor was getting stressed with me because I was crying and trying to move and the nurse kept giving me gas and air and morphine.

Jo left not long after the surgery was over because she was shattered as well. She’d been awake for a day and a half. I was a bit emotional when she left. It was scary being left on my own. I didn’t say anything to her because I felt guilty. She’s since told me off numerous times for saying it was fine for her to leave when I wasn’t being totally honest!

All in all, it wasn’t a bad first birth experience and I’ve now got a wonderful, sweet, caring, kind 11-year-old who I adore, as do his sisters 🙂 most of the time when they’re not arguing!

Aiden and Ella

 Missed Being Pregnant

I loved having my new baby but I was surprised to find myself feeling a bit sad because I missed being pregnant! The kicks and feeling the baby move were what I missed the most but I also missed going to the midwife appointments and hearing the heartbeat.
The first midwife appointment I went to was the best. I was so excited but nervous at the same time. When she got out the pregnancy wheel and asked me the date of my last period, time seemed to slow and it took ages for her to tell me what my due date was!

It was 5 years before I’d get pregnant again. KayCee’s birth story and Ella’s Birth Story

Flashback Friday Oct 14th – KayCee’s Birth Story

KayCee’s Birth Story

Another birth story, this time it’s KayCee’s birth story from 2005. It didn’t go as smoothly as Ella’s and if you’re squeamish, or pregnant (or both!) you may not want to read it.

I remember being pregnant for the first time and worrying about every little thing I read in other people’s birth stories. I just wanted to put a little warning out there before you read!

Baby KayCee - KayCee's birth story

Waters Broke In The Middle Of The Night

My waters broke and I went into labour naturally with KayCee in the middle of the night. This was a new experience for me as I’d been induced with Aiden.

I spent most of the day on gas and air but things didn’t progress and KayCee started getting distressed. They decided to do an emergency c-section and I got whisked away to get ready for surgery.

Surgery

They seemed to be taking forever to get the epidural in. They finally did it and things seemed to happen really fast afterwards.

Soon than I expected, they were lifting my gorgeous little up girl up to meet me. When they told me we had a girl I just cried. I was so happy. Ant held her while they sorted me out and a while later we went to the ward.

Blisters From Sucking Her Hands

I couldn’t stop looking at her. She sucked her fingers all the time and we noticed some little blister like marks, one on each hand near the thumb. We mentioned it to the midwife and she said it was where KayCee had sucked her hands when she was inside me. They were worried that they might get infected so they put her on antibiotics.

It was a nightmare trying to get her to take the medicine until a lovely midwife on the night shift showed me how to make it easier.

She squirted the medicine into a new teat (the ones they provide for the bottles of formula) and put the teat into KayCee’s mouth. She sucked straight away and in a few seconds, the medicine was gone. I was very impressed!

 

Broken Needle

I was a little dazed and my memory isn’t the greatest but I think it was a short while later when the head anaesthetist came to see me, accompanied by the anaesthetist who had done my epidural.

They came to tell me about a complication that had happened when they were trying to get my epidural in;
the needle had broken in my back and the piece that had broken off was still in there.

Nobody had told me at the time because they didn’t want to distress me while they were doing the surgery.
The anaesthetist who did it looked worried like he thought I was going to shout at him or something.

Ant and I both assured him that we totally understood he wasn’t at fault. There was nothing he could have done to stop it happening and his job was made harder by me being so overweight so we didn’t blame him at all.

Visitors

We had some visitors while we were in, one of them being Jonathan, Ant’s eldest son from his first marriage. Luckily, he was in the country and came to see us; (he’d been in Australia and is now teaching English in China) it was lovely to see him because, with all his travelling, we don’t get to see him much.

 

Jonathan and KayCee - KayCee's birth story

X-Rays & Pain

I spent the next couple of days being x-rayed and scanned, trying to find the needle so the back surgeon could go in and get it out.
I remember being very scared when they wheeled me away from Ant and into the theatre. He didn’t have to look after KayCee while I was in surgery as they’d sent her to the special care baby unit so Ant could be with me.

All I remember after that is thinking that I’d never felt pain like it in my life, ever.

Every single part of me seemed to be screaming in pain and I woke up crying. I was in the high dependency unit and if I remember right, I think I had a male nurse, who was really lovely. I can’t remember what he looked like but I remember he kept trying to make me smile.

Cut The Clothes

They wanted to get me changed at one point, I don’t remember why but I know I had my own clothes on, pyjamas I think and when they tried to move me, I told them to just cut the clothes, I didn’t care about them at all. I just couldn’t stand being moved.
I think I was on the HDU overnight but my memory is really sketchy!

When I could move again, I got Ant to describe the dressing on my back. He said it was a see-through sticker but he couldn’t see the wound because it was full of blood.
I was let home after a few days.

They gave me an appointment to go back to see the surgeon who had removed the needle so he could check the wound and sign me off to the care of my doctor.

I had the dressing on for a week in total and it felt horrible. I was so relieved to have it taken off!
The surgeon was pleased with the wound so signed me off and instructed me to see the nurse at my doctor’s.

Wound Problems

As I sat back in the car to go home, it felt like a tap had been switched on and the water was running down my back. I got Ant to have a look and he said it looked like the wound was opening.
To cut a very long story short, the wound did come open and it took six weeks to heal. It had to be dressed daily by the nurses from my doctor’s surgery.

They came to my home every day for 4 weeks then I went to the surgery every day for the next 2 weeks.

I shudder to think how much my treatment cost. The dressings they used cost between £25 and £40 each depending on the size. They were special dressings to collect all the fluid that was leaking from the wound all the time and sometimes it leaked that much Ant had to change the dressings more than once a day.

Depressed

If I’m honest, those 6 weeks were really hard for me. I found it hard to bond with KayCee because I couldn’t do things for her without someone having to help me and I kept getting depressed because I had to rely on Ant for everything.

He never once complained and hugged me when I cried and blubbered that I felt guilty because I couldn’t do anything. It felt like it was never going to end.

The day the nurse said I didn’t need to go anymore was one of the best days of my life! I could finally start looking after my baby properly.

The Internet

Even though she was my second baby, it didn’t stop me worrying about silly stuff, especially with having a 5-year gap. There was one difference those 5 years had brought though…. the internet! I didn’t have a computer when Aiden was a baby.
If I was worried about something I had to wait to see the healthcare worker or phone my mum!

If I was worried about anything when KayCee was a baby I could Google it! Information for colic, nappy rash and infant hiccups was readily available. I also had Ant to reassure me when I was worrying needlessly about things. He’d had plenty of practice, after all, KayCee being his 10th child!

Kellyann and KayCee - KayCee's birth story
Kellyann & KayCee, Ant’s daughter from his first marriage. She was in the RAF at the time so we didn’t get to see her much either. As you can see, they adored each other from very early on!

 

My dad and KayCee - KayCee's birth story
My dad 🙂

I’m left with a scar but surprisingly, it’s gone quite small considering the size of the wound.
All in all, it was a stressful time but our gorgeous, smart, wonderful KayCee was worth it all 🙂

KayCee

 

KayCee and Ella

Here’s Aiden’s birth story and Ella’s birth story.

Flashback Friday 7th Oct – Ella’s Birth Story

Ella’s Birth Story

I missed last weeks Flashback Friday because I’d just started with this chest infection and had had a sleepless night.
I’m slowly getting better and seeing as I love the Flashback Friday idea, I decided to go searching through my pictures again.
We have thousands of pictures on the server but unfortunately, it’s poorly again so I’m relying on my uploaded pictures on Facebook 🙂
I’ve been meaning to write my birth stories for a while and today is as good a day as any. This is Ella’s birth story. Don’t worry, I’ll try to leave out any gory bits!

Baby Ella - Ella's birth story

Elective C-Section

I’m starting with the last birth, first, because it’s the freshest. Although it was 4 years ago and my memory isn’t the greatest so I’m not sure exactly how accurate it’s going to be.
Ella was due in the middle of August. We’d decided to have an elective c-section after both my other pregnancies ended in emergency sections.
The date for Ella’s birth was set for August 8th, just under a week after KayCee’s 2nd birthday.

I was a bit upset that I was never going to experience a natural birth (that was then…I totally got over that when I watched some very painful births on youtube the other week!!) as we’d decided this was definitely our last baby, but the whole process was very calm and relaxed which made it a lovely experience.

Early Morning

We arrived early in the morning I think and had to wait until the afternoon for the surgery. Time drags when you’re waiting in hospitals and it certainly seemed to take a very long time before anything started to happen.
We were looking forward to finally finding out if we had a boy or a girl. Neither of us wanted to know beforehand, we liked the surprise 🙂

I was a bit nervous about the needle in my back and if you come back next week to read about KayCee’s birth, you’ll understand why!
However, this one didn’t hurt too much and before we knew it, they were lifting Ella out and showing her to us for the first time.

Confusion!

When I saw her little face, I breathed in sharply with shock. I got confused for a split second because she looked exactly like KayCee when they lifted her out and it was like I’d been taken back in time. They told us we had a girl and I was so happy KayCee had a baby sister.
I was also happy for Ant, having another daughter after he and his first wife lost 2 of their 3 girls and we had 6 boys between us. We’d have been happy with a boy, obviously, but it was nice to have another girl.

Ant and baby Ella - - Ella's birth story

Home

We only had to stay in a couple of days. I was so pleased when they let us go home early because even though they looked after us really well, I just wanted to go home to my other babies.

Big Sister

Four years on, our beautiful Ella brings joy to our lives daily. She adores her sister and thinks she can do anything KayCee does.
She potty trained herself when she saw KayCee wasn’t wearing nappies anymore. One day she just used the potty without any prompting from us and carried on using it.
A few weeks later, she decided she didn’t want to wear a nappy at night anymore. KayCee didn’t wear one so she didn’t want to. She didn’t have any accidents at all! She’s only wet her bed once when she was a bit older and she was poorly. She was so upset when she came to tell me her bed was wet. She even said she’d never done it before and she cried a little 🙁

No Stabilisers

Her latest, ‘do-it-yourself’ trick was to get her dad to take her stabilisers off her bike because KayCee had recently learned to ride her bike without them and now Ella’s teaching herself how to ride without stabilisers!

She’s wonderfully cheeky and we all adore her 🙂

4-year-old Ella - - Ella's birth story

 

Ella with her dolls - - Ella's birth story

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